The bully thing....

This isn’t going to be a heart wrenching tale of how my son is bullied. He isn’t bullied really and most of the time he wouldn’t realize even if he was. Kids will be kids!

For example: He came home in 2nd grade beaming one day and reported that “the cool kids let me play basketball with them for three days!”  

I told him that was great and asked them what game did they play?? knock-out??    one-on-one??     pig???

His response was....

“Actually when the ball rolled away, it was my job to get it for them”

Sigh...........

 
 I then had to teach him that those children were NOT being his friend and actually were not being very nice. He didn’t understand that. I had to tell him that if they were being good friends they would let him play the actual game with them.  He nodded that he got it and then asked if he could take his own basketball to school.

For the next month, all he did at recess was shoot baskets alone. The teacher called me one day and said “Dougy isn’t sharing his basketball at recess.” Hmmmmmm wonder why!!! I told her I would talk to him and I did. I explained that he needed to share with other kids if they want to shoot baskets with him. He said “oh I didn’t know that” and from then on he let other kids play with him.

So in the case of bullying I am sort of glad that Dougy doesn’t pick up on all of those social cues because it protects him from getting his feelings hurt. On the other hand, it is very important for me to explain these situations to him so he can handle them on his own. 

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